Society places such emphasis on the romance of meeting that soulmate, someone who is “made” for us ever since we were born. This soulmate is someone who knows us inside and out, someone who will be there for us at all times, through our ups and our downs. Naturally the “happily ever after” fairytales we were brought up upon does not help with this way of thinking. We inevitably look forward to meeting that someone who is the perfect “other half” of ourselves to complete ourselves.
And in the event we really do find someone who makes the list, who wants us as well and who also have the same life goals as us, Hurray! it’s time to sing our praises of the beauty of this world and start loving! Yet, many of us tend to get caught up in the process of fulfilling our life destiny, meeting that someone special, getting hitched, and making babies, we tend to neglect our spouse in the heady years of fulfilling our destiny of procreation. In fact, it is not uncommon for one or both spouse to transfer all their love to their “little creations”, while conveniently forgetting the reason that creation is possible only because of the love we have with the spouse.
With the trend veering towards late marriages or postponement of having children, the young adults or those hovering around the 30-year mark have come to realize that marriage is not the be all or end all. Perhaps my peers have discovered this strange phenomenon. Have they realized the fruitlessness of procreation or perhaps they just can’t be bothered in their pursuit of greater wealth, bigger homes and higher cc cars? Or maybe they merely want to enjoy life, with their Pradas, LVs and the little blue box, without the entanglement of a marriage certificate to bind two souls together?
One thing my peers got right has got to be: Relationships are a lot of hard work. Indeed. How easy is it for two strangers to come together, build upon their similarities and common goals and make a promise to live a life of 50 or more years together? Is this premise normal to begin with? Or are we brought up to think that this IS the way of life? Is this the rite of passage for all human beings who are not social deviants?
As a newly wed with plans to remain child-free, who am I to judge others on their decisions to get married early, to remain single, to marry late or to have a football team of rambunctious kids? All I can say is that when you have found the one whom you have decided to be with till the end of time, always remember that it is never easy to have found him or her in the first place and most importantly, to treasure whatever the two of you share. A someone special to cuddle to is not easy to find, as all my single friends can attest to. For only those with lonely nights will understand the pain, loneliness and fear of being alone.
So this Valentine’s Day is a timely reminder for all lovers out there, married or not, to treasure what we have. Making love work takes effort and commitment. Loving someone may not be an easy task, the rewards, however, are gratifying. You may plan some form of appreciation or romantic gesture this upcoming Valentine’s Day. Nothing fanciful, nothing too elaborate. All you need is a reminder of your love for each other. A picnic, a passionate sms, a kiss, a hug or better yet, as what my spouse says, treat everyday like Valentine’s Day.
So what’s the fuss about Valentine’s Day? Romance-filled day or evil entrepreneurs jumping on the bandwagon? Who cares as long as it keeps the l’amour going.
(Here's a meaningful article, "How $30 Saved My Marriage", i would like to share with you. http://www.christianitytoday.com/mp/2007/004/18.12.html
Another meaningful article from ASOL..
ASOL - A Valentine's Wish
On Valentine’s Day, millions of people around the world celebrate one of the most profound blessings that life has to offer - mutual love. And as you honour that love today, here are some things I wish all couples remember always?
"I love you" is easily spoken, but waking up an hour earlier to prepare breakfast for you is something else!
When you're in love, you never question the meaning of life.
The greatest gift is one's time.
If you truly love someone, you can never grow old.
Don't just focus on the action? try to understand the spirit behind the action.
To keep the loving cup full, give a sincere compliment each day.
When you're giving everything, you've got nothing to lose.
Though much ugliness, violence, darkness and hatred is possible in this world, someone is holding your hand.
Money can always be earned, but a beautiful moment, once past, will never return.
The most wonderful thing you can do with someone you love? is absolutely nothing!
The next time you're moved to anger, think about how you'd feel if this person were no longer in your life.
Don't save anything for a special day or occasion. If you have something good to do, say or give, do it now.
It's easy to love someone for his/her strengths, but it takes true courage to love someone for his/her weaknesses.
Each time you part, there's a possibility you might never see each other again, so part in love.
And finally, remember? that despite not being linked by blood, you have found someone who will love, live, laugh, and cry with you... and that itself is a miraculous thing.
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